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Tell Me About It: Wife can’t stop husband’s unhealthy habits

By Carolyn Hax, Washington Post
Published: November 8, 2017

Wife canít stop husbandís unhealthy habits

Q: My husband had a heart attack two years ago and nothing we do gets him to eat better. He can eat two bags of chips, a container of ice cream and lots of bread and butter every day when he comes home from work. It is so hard to watch him doing this.

Trying

A: Then I suggest you lay off the attempted corrections and just enjoy him while you have him ó and do whatever you can under the circumstances to protect yourself financially for if/when he has another health crisis that either kills him or leaves him disabled.

And keep the bingeables out of the house.

I realize this collectively might be the least welcome advice ever, but I think you have to think of him as a runaway train. And when you canít stop it, your remaining choices are all about limiting the damage from eventual impact. Iím sorry.

Parent gets flak for supporting adult son

Q: My siblings think I spoil my 26-year-old son. I am not rich but I am secure. My son is trying some entrepreneurial things and money is often tight. I donít want him to pay for food with his credit card. I give him a few grand here and there, which makes it easier on him, but then I dare not tell my family. .

I think really rich people subsidize their childrenís entire lives all the time and thatís called high society. But Iím being called a sucker. Is there a line I shouldnít cross?

Secure

A: If your son is an ingrate or in any way showing signs of entitlement, then please reduce the cushion.

But if heís a good kid who appreciates what you do, is trying in earnest to make something of himself ó as in, working his butt off and not living the dilettante life ó and demonstrates through his life choices that he intends to be a net asset to society, then please feel free to tell your family to stuff it.