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Dead_poets_society A good friend lost her father today. And as someone who lost a dad just over a year ago -- and has yet to really get over it -- I was at a loss to provide any really sound advice.

Here at Stuck in the 80s-land, I'm pretty much able to wrap up any occasion -- sad or happy -- in a flurry of movie quotes, song lyrics or incredibly bizarre stories of my inept social behavior from days long gone. Still, going into my patented "Is this the man who wrecked the buffet at the Harrow Club" routine from "Beverly Hills Cop" didn't seem like the way to go this time around.

Let's face it: I'm the guy you turn to for perspective when your spouse runs away with a tubby bus driver from Cleveland ("I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'.") Or the guy you give a cheap cigar to when you have a baby ("You're gonna name the kid Elliot? No, you can't name the kid Elliot. Elliot is a fat kid with glasses who eats paste.")

But death? All the good lines are from the '70s, for crying out loud. God bless Woody Allen's "Love and Death" -- my dad and I were big fans. ("And so I walk through the valley of the shadow of death. Actually, make that 'I run through the valley of the shadow of death' - in order to get OUT of the valley of the shadow of death more quickly, you see.")

May all of those who have lost loved ones this year find peace, especially you Jen. And if I can be of any help, just pass me that cheap cigar and take heart in the only words of comfort I'm capable of invoking.


5. "Shall I tell you what I find beautiful about you? You are at your very best when things are worst." (Starman)

4. "A little advice about feelings, kiddo: Don't expect it always to tickle." (Ordinary People)

3. "Laughter through tears is my favorite emotion." (Steel Magnolias)

2.  "If we can't get strong from what we lose, what we miss, what we want and can't have... then we could never get strong enough, could we? What else makes us strong?" (The Hotel New Hampshire)

1. "I went into the woods because I wanted to live deliberately. I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life... to put to rout all that was not life; and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived." (Dead Poets Society)

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