Bad economy has parents saying no -- a lot!
John Rosemond, the parenting author and family psychologist, says he's recently observed something in two different cities that he hasn't seen a lot in the last few years: parents telling their kids, "No."
He wrote about seeing a mom at a discount store, flanked by her kids, who were crying for her to buy them something. Concerned about having enough money, she told them no.
"As I walked by, smiling at her, it struck me that the economy, bad as it is, could have beneficial effects on parenting," Rosemond wrote.
Rosemond can be tough on today's parents and the kids we are raising. He said as much as he was preparing for an appearance in the bay area last year. He thinks parents are not strict enough, and that children don't have enough responsibility. He thinks we are turning them into little more than pampered slackers who expect the world to give them everything while they give nothing in return.
I think he's somewhat offbase, because I know plenty of responsible parents doing their best to raise responsible kids. But Rosemond's most recent column did make me wonder: What else are parents saying no to? We skipped the circus and the state fair this year. A friend tells me she cut her lawn service. And we are always looking for tips to help us save around the house and while we're shopping for groceries. Rosemond says the bad economy could force parents to put their kids to work -- mowing the lawn, for instance, or doing other chores around the house.
I think it's good to get the kids to help out -- but I also hope that we can avoid burdening them with all of our concerns about the financial woes we're all facing. Let kids continue being kids, at least for a little while.
-- Sherry Robinson
[Photo of John Rosemond from his Web site]