How Momma got her groove back
About a month after bringing my new son home from the hospital I realized the most social interaction I’d had beyond my hubby and baby was talking back to the television.
I needed to get out.
So I did what anyone would do. I called up one of my most fun girlfriends and planned a “girls' night out.”
I cleared it with my hubby who assured me he could handle our little one for a night and sent me on my way. Afterwards, I learned some valuable lessons.
Lesson #1 – Do not attempt your first girl’s night out after baby without Spanx. (www.spanx.com) I had dropped 30 pounds in a month thanks to breastfeeding, but I still had much “tightening to do.” The Spanx made me look much better in my new dress. Even actress Rebecca Romijn recently said that although she has lost lots of weight while breastfeeding twins, she must have her Spanx.
Lesson # 2 – Leave while the baby is asleep. It was hard enough walking out the door, let alone while he was awake. After giving my son a bath, I made my exit.
Lesson #3 -- Take it slow. Instead of a full-out club night, slip away for dinner and drinks. I made the mistake of going for the gusto. Drinks, dancing, etc. Not a good idea. As Justin Timberlake blared from the speaker all I could think about was whether or not I pumped enough milk for my hubby to give our son.
Lesson #4 – Have pictures available in case of severe miss my baby-itis. I was covered with this one thanks to my trusty camera-phone. Whenever I got a jones for my little guy I slipped to the bathroom and flipped through my picture gallery.
Lesson #5 – Don’t be afraid to bail. After a Long Island Iced Tea and a few two-steps on the dance floor, I couldn’t take it anymore. I bid my girlfriend adieu and made it home before 1 a.m.
When I walked in my hubby perked up. “Home so early?” he said with a smirk.
The truth was hanging out just didn’t feel the same with a baby at home. I felt guilty and most of all I missed my son. People tell me it gets better, that one day I’ll be able to even spend the night away from my son and won’t feel the least bit guilty about it.
Maybe they’re right. But for now I’m fine with keeping girls night short and sweet.
-- Nicole Hutcheson, new Times Mom