The Love Dare
In this busy business of parenting, working, worshipping and doing community service, my husband and I rarely make time for each other.
A typical day in our New Tampa household goes something like this: Hubby leaves for work at 6:30 a.m. I dress and feed our baby, drop her at the sitter’s by 9 a.m. and head to work. Hubby picks her up, feeds her and entertains until I get home at 7. Then, I usually give our girl a bath, read her a story and put her to bed. By the time the lights are out in our daughter’s room, I’m usually too tired to hold an adult conversation, much less anything else.
My husband and I continue this frantic and exhausting pace all week long. Sometimes, we are like two commuters passing on I-275, moving fast and paying little attention to details.
What in the name of poopy diapers and homemade baby food happened to US?
I’m sure it’s a situation that occurs with busy Mommas and Poppas the world over, not just newbies like us. In an effort to prompt discussion that goes beyond the business of running our household, we decided to take the Love Dare. The 40-day program, which runs through Feb. 13, is designed to help spouses show love to each other. Most of the suggested acts don’t cost a penny but require creativity and sacrifice as in the challenge for Day 10: Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse.
I wanted to suggest that my spouse wash the dishes or make the bed, but then that would be a little like nagging and not in keeping with the spirit of the dare. So, I kept quiet when he said he couldn’t think of anything to do. When the baby woke up in the middle of the night with a stuffy nose, daddy went to the rescue. Challenge number 10, accomplished.
The challenge is sponsored by a Christian organization, FamilyLife. But the ideals behind the effort are worthy regardless of one’s religious orientation. And don't think that you have to use Valentine's Day or the days leading up to it as a reason to participate. All the challenges are still on the site so you can use them when you are ready to start.
So far, my husband and I have been enjoying the challenges. They make us stop and think about doing something for each other every day. We’re participating because we don’t want the strains of life and parenting to separate us. Working on our union will undoubtedly keep our family strong.
-- Sherri Day