Momma, are you going to work today?
It comes like clockwork if I'm putting on makeup or nice clothes. The query from my 4-year-old daughter, eyes wide, sweetness in her voice, arms firmly wrapped around my leg: "Momma, are you going to work today?"
Undoubtedly, my answer is yes and no matter how I say it, the tears start flying. "Noooooooooooooooooooo!! You ALWAYS go to work. Please stay home with me just today! Please!!!"
I am not exaggerating when I say I field this question at least five times a week. Each time I apologize, explain how a job is a way to support our family, and point out that Saturday or Sunday is only so many days away. Lot of good that does.
The issue seems exacerbated by a recent run of vacations for us, where I have been able to spend several days in a row with her. And even though I give her notice when that time off is up, she falls back into her daily goodbye trauma. All this despite the fact that my husband works from home and is with her every day.
Mind you, I share this not out of complaint, but rather out of sadness. Truth is, I would love to just once say, "You know what, sweetie? I will stay home with you today. Let's play!"
-- Amy Hollyfield