Mommas are mad -- at dads!
Are you mad at the father of your children? According to a poll conducted by Parenting magazine, you are not alone. "We love our husbands -- but we're mad that we spend more mental energy on the details of parenting," says the story accompanying the poll. "We're mad that these guys . . . can be clueless when it comes to what our kids are eating and what supplies they need for school. And more than anything else, we're mad that they get more time to themselves than we do."
The more than 1,000 women who are a part of MomConnection, an online panel of moms, responded to the survey by saying that they get angry -- a lot. The survey found that 46 percent of Mommas get irate with their husbands once a week or more. The number goes higher -- 54 percent -- when the couple has kids younger than 1 in the house. While about half of the women said they don't stay mad at their man for long, 10 percent said that the anger is "deep and long-lasting."
The moms in the survey said that they don't want to have to tell men what they want done around the house or what the kids need. They want the guys to be able to see it for themselves. But I think if you want something done -- at work, at home, in the grocery store -- you just gotta ask for it.
I have to admit that my husband is pretty good helping around the house -- he unloads the dishwasher (something he knows I hate to do), he makes breakfast for the kids and he gets them their baths at night. I make the lunches and dinner, get them dressed in the morning and get them to sleep most nights. Was it always divided like that? No way. But if you want things to work out, you gotta let each other know what is going on.
And, oh yeah, I still get angry about little things. But we talk it out and we're on our way.
Maybe Mommas and Poppas should take a look at Sherri Day's blog on the Love Dare. Doing little things for each other might take the anger level a notch or two.
-- Sherry Robinson