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Sharon Kennedy Wynne, Tracey Henry and Suzannah DiMarzio

Mothers of sons get left out in the cold



I have to admit feeling a little left out when I wrote this blog post on the daddy-daughter date night they are throwing at Chik-Fil-A's next week. I'm irritated, but can't quite put my finger on it. We have daddy-daughter date nights, father-son picnics and mother-daughter tea parties ... But nothing for mom and sons? How come we mothers of boys get left out?

Everyone with a son should read William Pollack’s book, Real Boys, which warns of the influence of stereotypes on masculinity. Pollack argues that one of the reasons boys end up shooting up school yards is the societal pressure to disengage from their mothers, toughen up, don't show their emotions. Meanwhile, mothers are encouraged to withdraw from their sons, don't baby them or turn them into mamas boys. Maybe this is part of that.
Or am I reading too much into this?
I just know that when I see the fliers for mother-daughter tea parties at a teahouse in town or the father-son camp-outs, I think how I would love to do something with my boys that was organized like that.
In looking around the web, I saw that  Chick-fil-A shops in Ohio hosted mother-son "Date Knights" in a similar vein, so I sent an email to the Tampa Bay Chick-Fil-A people, asking if this was in our future and was told: "We have done similar mother-son date nights in other markets, but we currently don’t have any upcoming in the Tampa/St. Pete area." Bummer.
--Sharon Kennedy Wynne
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