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Whoa, Momma!

Sharon Kennedy Wynne, Tracey Henry and Suzannah DiMarzio

New parents' sex lives take a hit



food_valday.jpgIt's no secret that lots of parents say that after their children are born, their sex lives fizzle. chatted up about 5,000 parents a couple years ago and found that once a child arrives, the bedroom becomes more of a makeshift nursery than a place to connect with your mate.

Well, two years and 5,000 more respondents later, BabyTalk magazine is now asking new parents how they feel in its Big Sex Survey. And the numbers are pretty grim. Of the 10,000 respondents, 96 percent of them were women. And the picture they paint of sex after baby isn't pretty.

Among the findings:

* 66 percent said they were happy with their pre-baby sex lives; now 24 percent say they are happy post baby

* 74 percent say they fully or partly agree with the statement that lack of sleep is a major obstacle to sex.

* 66 percent said that before their babies were born, they had sex more than once a week; now only 24 percent have sex more than once post baby.

* 8 percent said that they plan and stick to a date night once a week while 67 percent said they go on a date every few months or never.

The grim news just keeps going but you get the gist. This isn't anywhere near the main reason lots of women are deciding to go childless but it might be a factor.

So, how can you turn the tide? BabyTalk does offer up a couple of suggestions, including making a date night quickly, remember to hug and kiss like you did before you had the baby and being patient with one another. When the time is right, you'll know it.

~ Sherry Robinson

[Last modified: Tuesday, July 27, 2010 3:49pm]


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