New Year, New Momma
Of late, an old Sunday School ditty has been ringing in my head:
Oh be careful little ears what you hear. Oh be careful little ears what you hear. For the Father up above is looking down with love. Oh be careful little ears what you hear.
Maybe, subconsciously, I’ve dredged up this song because I’m worried about my 10-month-old’s world. My girl doesn’t miss much. She’s always listening, always absorbing and soon she’ll be repeating!
Oh be careful little tongue what you say…
Although my husband and I are morally upright, decent Americans who exercise proper etiquette most of the time, I worry that in an unguarded moment, we will pass along some behavior that we don’t want our daughter to inherit. I’m not talking about anything criminal or dirty. I just want her to mind her manners and learn to be polite and say things like “Yes, Mam” and “No, Sir.” And, I don’t want her to repeat everything she hears on television. (Note to self: No more watching Oprah while she’s playing on the floor. The baby only looks like she’s not paying attention. She could well be internalizing Dr. Oz.)
You see, I want to raise a properly trained Southern Belle with enough charm and class to be first lady and enough fire and brilliance to be president!
Oh be careful little feet where you go…
My husband and I have got to be better role models and we will make that a New Year resolution. We want our daughter to say “Please” and “Thank You.” But we don’t always use those words when we ask each other to help with chores around the house or to pass the butter at the dinner table. I like that our girl loves music and enjoys bopping to the beat of her favorite tantrum-calming song, (which at the moment is Just Fine, Mary J. Blige’s anthem to positive living). But I’d die a quick and horrible death if she ever danced like some of the women in music videos or even on youtube. (Not that she’d see me doing said risqué dancing. That, a lady does not do.)
Because we’ve got little eyes on our every move, my hubby and are working on being our best selves more often -- especially to each other. As we come to the end of this holiday season of super self-absorption, we want our girl to pick up on love, the importance of family and of being kind just because.
-- Sherri Day