Saturday's issue of the St. Petersburg Times's Personal Best section has its usual good advice for health and harmony. Being the first of the year there are stories on the best advice from 2010,  how to start running, thoughts on slowing down and enjoying life.  But this column from pediatrician Peter Gorski, a child development expert at the Children’s Board of Hillsborough County, caught my eye and I thought  is worth repeating here:

Over the course of many years practicing pediatrics, studying child development, observing families and growing humble as a father, I have learned a number of lessons about the very fine art of parenting. I have distilled the wisdom I have been taught by children and their families into 10 basic principles, practices and guidelines that seem useful for all families. I hope you will find them meaningful. 

Follow your heart. Children sense when adults are being sincere. Besides, you can usually trust your emotions to lead you in the right direction. And you’ll model for your children how to communicate honestly.
Appreciate each child’s strengths and respect limits. All children have intrinsic worth and special qualities that help them relate, persevere and shine an inner light. Similarly, each child has abilities in some areas and challenges in others. Our job is to encourage them to stretch within safe and acceptable boundaries.
Honor differences that distinguish each child. Even within the same family, children have their own personalities from the start. Since we can’t take for granted that one child will respond like another, we have to get to know and understand the nature of each individually.
Care to set consistent, secure boundaries. Children feel courageous enough to explore their limits when they also feel comfortable that they won’t hurt or embarrass themselves. And if you didn’t care, you wouldn’t bother to teach them how to balance self-control and self-will.
Know and respect your own emotional thresholds and physical limits. All of us reach a point when our mind, body or spirit become exhausted and unable to act rationally or react quickly. Children need their parents’ best attention and decisions. So taking care of yourself is also in the best interest of your children.
Make and keep your own friends and support systems. Life outside of parenting restores energy for the job and takes some of the pressure off you and your children. Relationships, work and recreation can add pleasure and vigor to you while teaching your children the value of being connected.
Ask for help: Interdependence is healthier than independence. Modern life is somehow both noisy and isolating. Loneliness is depressing and depression is paralyzing. So do the world a favor — teach children the advantages of relationships and support.
Spend time with a child when you can’t be interrupted. Children want and need our company. They also know when our attention is divided between them and telephone calls, chores or thoughts. Protect some time each day when you can devote yourself to your child’s interests.
Learn from disappointments. We always learn more from our mistakes than from our successes, especially if we remember that our intrinsic worth is not linked to a bad decision.
Value your parental love and guidance as the greatest contribution to our nation’s security, prosperity and civility. Children who grow up caring to succeed and contribute guarantee a healthier, better-educated, wealthier, stronger and more humane society. We teach most effectively by example — children observe and follow how we treat neighbors, co-workers, customers and strangers. In many ways, the child is father to the man. 

--Peter Gorski, M.D., M.P.A., is a child development expert at the Children’s Board of Hillsborough County.

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