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Whoa, Momma!

Sharon Kennedy Wynne, Tracey Henry and Suzannah DiMarzio

Winning but at what cost?



First_cowboys_game_2I yelled at a 6-year-old child. Two, in fact.

Not the worst yelling I've ever heard on a soccer field. More like, "See what happens when you don't do your job?"

They were among the oldest and most experienced on the team. They were supposed to play defense in this, our season-opener. But they kept running to the front. They left the goalie unprotected. And we got scored on.

The story has a happy ending, They accepted my criticism, played their positions, made some good saves and we won the game (largely because the other team was short half their players).


Moms, watch what you wish for. You're going to want your child's team to win. But at what cost? Or you want a nice, mellow coach. Okay, but shouldn't your child learn? And learn what? Individual skills or teamwork?

My son found out today that his U-12 team is ridiculously dominant. They were ahead so early that they had to sit down players, including him. My daughter, who refs when she's not playing, got yelled at by two parents, and then by the league directors for not stopping the game to silence the parents. Opening day can be awful. Even when you win.

Inhale. Exhale. Be glad to be alive when it's 95 degrees out and the ball's coming at your child and the hot dogs are undercooked and you have who-knows-what to contend with Monday through Friday.

My husband still talks about a high school coach who threw him off the field with some very unkind words that ring in his ears decades later. I didn't humiliate anybody. And we won. Right?

Marlene Sokol,Times coach

(Here's a short video clip of the opening minutes. Go Cowboys! Download MVI_0011.AVI  )

[Last modified: Thursday, May 13, 2010 10:56am]


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