A word or a few hundred more on "Mommy blogging"
"Honey, Don’t Bother Mommy. I’m Too Busy Building My Brand,” appeared in last weekend's Style section, and was met with more than a little controversy. You might gather from the title alone that the rest of the article may have been a tad condescending and a not-so flattering portrayal to many women.(The Times parenting blog, Motherlode, has now stepped into the fray).
From the thousands of comments, incensed Tweets and scores of rebuttal blog posts that followed, many bloggers took umbrage with the article for a variety of different reasons. Many thought the article pigeonholed mommy bloggers as all swag-hoarding, family-neglecting obsessive types who only cared about stats, site traffic and PR firms. Others voiced frustration over the lack of respect the mainstream media often gives bloggers. Some felt that the article missed the boat completely by failing to mention the community aspect of what many women seek out online in the first place. And still others pointed out that men would never be depicted in such a negative light for trying to earn a paycheck.
As someone who has a blog, reads and enjoys many others and just happens to be a mother but absolutely despises the moniker “mommy blogger,” I personally think the article fell short. With one sweep of a patronizing pen -- or keyboard --the author concentrated on a tiny, still-evolving example of how some people may or may not choose to monetize their personal blogs, rather than even mentioning what really makes a mom blog, or any other type, valuable.
Instead, it belittled a medium and a community that is full of beauty, insight, intelligence and unexpected resources that allow parents to be exposed to different perspectives that not only entertain, but can teach and engage us as well.
Is it messy? Yes.
Is it perfect? No.
But neither is this big beautiful mess we call motherhood and the Internet may just be the only place big enough, diverse enough and just a touch crazy enough to capture some of the unique living snapshots of that experience. There is enough room for everyone, but ridicule tends to needlessly cramp the space.
Perhaps a blog about scrapbooking isn’t your cup of tea. Or a post about coupon-clipping or a blog conference or even “tutu-making tutorials.”
But if it isn’t, you can simply choose not to read it without the need to spit into someone else’s cup.
Whether it’s of the sippy variety or not.
-- Tracey Henry, the Suburban Diva