Time off leads to refreshed moms, better dads

Danielle Hauser, right, and her friend Gina Day took their kids to Epcot on Oct. 6. Next weekend, they’ll be at Epcot with “grown-up girls.”

Courtesy of Danielle Hauser

Danielle Hauser, right, and her friend Gina Day took their kids to Epcot on Oct. 6. Next weekend, they’ll be at Epcot with “grown-up girls.”

You won't find me at the school bus stop next Friday.

Instead of getting my son off to school like I do every day, I will stroll through the countries at Epcot's Food and Wine Festival.

For four days, I will take a vacation from being a mom. No kids, no husbands, just the girls.

I will join my Phi Sigma Sigma sorority sisters and best friends for a fun-filled girls' trip to celebrate our collective 40th birthdays, a milestone that calls for a magnificent celebration.

We started planning this vacation over a year ago, and in true sorority fashion, we will sport commemorative T-shirts in the park.

While my friends and I eat and drink our way through the Epcot World Showcase, my husband will be in charge of our 7-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter.

The things I normally coordinate on an everyday basis will now be his responsibility. He'll do everything from sunrise to sunset, including packing school lunches, helping with homework and fixing dinner.

These daily tasks are second nature to me. In fact, I'm pretty sure I could make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich with one arm tied behind my back.

Now it's his turn.

It's not that my husband doesn't want to help or expects me to do everything. He has a demanding work schedule that requires him to put in a long day.

As a result, he doesn't have the chance to spend a lot of time with the kids during the week. Phil frequently leaves the house before 7 a.m., so he never gets the opportunity to walk our son to the bus stop or drop off our daughter at preschool.

I would suggest every mom take a vacation break with the girls. You return refreshed, and the quality time your husband will spend with the kids will make him a better dad.

Sure, I have girls' night out and shopping trips from time to time, but it's not the same as completely getting away. It'll be nice not having to wake up at 6 a.m. and get everyone ready for school.

While some men might not be receptive to their wife spending a fun weekend with the girls, my husband doesn't mind. He understands I deserve time off, and he's looking forward to spending time alone with the kids.

I already can see how excited the kids are to spend quality time with just their dad.

When Charlotte overheard me talking about my girls' trip, she sweetly asked if little girls could come along too. I explained to her that this trip to Epcot was just for grown-up girls, and that while I was gone, she would spend all of her time with Daddy.

She was so happy that she shrieked with delight.

So while Phil and the kids are enjoying their time together, my biggest concern for four days will involve choosing between a Bass or Harp at the Rose & Crown Pub in Epcot's England.

This sounds heavenly to me.

Danielle Hauser is a married mother of two who lives in the Westchase area.

Time off leads to refreshed moms, better dads 10/09/13 [Last modified: Wednesday, October 9, 2013 12:27pm]

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