Friday, October 19, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Mom’s worried she’ll be judged for dating

Mom痴 worried she値l be judged for dating

Q: I知 a 45-year-old divorced mom of two boys (10 and 7). For the first time since way before my marriage ended, I miss dating and specifically romantic intimacy not just sex but closeness.

I致e done some online dating and find that the guys dating women in my age group either want to keep things completely casual, or else to talk immediately about a relationship. I think I知 interested in the former, but am having a hard time feeling "OK" with that as a mother of young kids and someone who has probably frowned on that sort of thing in the past.

I don稚 have a great read on how others view this sort of thing now. Is it OK to just go out there and safely, when time permits have a good time? Is that going to make me ineligible to have a relationship again someday, if I want to?

Seeking Permission to Seek What I Want

A: Why so much concern about public opinion of this "sort of thing"? Who gives half a damn what people think of your value system or how you choose to live by it?

Why did you care enough in the past about others value systems that you judged them for "that sort of thing"?

Why would you even want to date someone in the future who would page through your history, including the choices you池e poised to make now, and find it morally disqualifying?

As long as you are careful not to destabilize your kids home life with the ups and downs of dating, then you池e fine on the kids thing, and as long as you behave respectfully of your and others feelings, then you池e fine with your fellow earth-dwellers.

Ada Doom: She can tell friends she is dating men and taking time to get to know them before making serious plans and introducing them to her kids a choice that seems wise. Or she can tell them she痴 [bringing home] every guy she sees on the dating site.

Her choice of how to spin this, but really, I知 not certain why she hasn稚 figured that out yet.

Carolyn: Touche.

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