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Grandparents, 2-year-old don't play well together

Q: Is it stupid to not like the way my parents play with my 2-year-old?

They live far away and our families can only manage to travel once or twice a year. They bring something new for my daughter, and insist that she plays with it, even when she shows no interest. They will repeatedly try to get her to like their toy and take other things out of her hand to get her attention back. If she does something cute, they ask her to do it past the point of boredom. When she talks or tries to show them something, they ignore it unless it's part of what they want to do. One of them is also always taking pictures of her and trying to get her to pose.

I know she loves them and all the attention, but I don't think it's good for her to be so bombarded with demands. I suppose as she gets older she will say no or walk away. In the meantime, am I overreacting, and do I need to just let them play how they play?


A: It doesn't sound as if there's much to like about the way they play, so, no, your dislike isn't "stupid." Acting on it, though, would be an overreaction. Their fussing and forcing make these play sessions all about themselves instead of the child, but it's all still more ridiculous than harmful; any harm would come over time and repeated exposure.

Another benefit to staying out of it is allowing them to work out some way of getting along. You can help a very little bit here — "She likes X, maybe try that," said casually and infrequently — but otherwise it's best to let them all figure each other out.

Grandparents, 2-year-old don't play well together 07/08/13 [Last modified: Wednesday, July 3, 2013 3:05pm]
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