Saturday, January 20, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Atheist gets bombarded with talk of faith

Q: A dear friend of mine went through a rough period and found great comfort in becoming a born-again Christian. Before this she was an atheist, as am I. I'm not sure how to deal with how much Jesus Christ has become a part of our conversations. I feel like it would be really inappropriate and disrespectful to say, "You know, I'm not a believer." And so I stay silent while she talks for 15 or 20 minutes about God's grace. How should I navigate this?

Friend

A: Why has it become "inappropriate and disrespectful" to say what you believe? Especially when it's something she herself used to think?

Besides — monologuing "for 15 or 20 minutes about God's grace" is not an issue of faith; it's an utter hijacking of a conversation.

Faith is a topic, not a ticking package. Handle accordingly.

Social media etiquette applies to weddings

Q: At a recent wedding, the bride asks that guests post none of their photos of the event online, only the couple will choose which photos to post. Guests are instructed to send all photos to them directly for choosing.

I fully support a couple who asks that no photos be taken during the ceremony. However, I've never heard anyone say the entire event is off-limits to cameras. So it's okay for me to take photos of the reception, but not to post online?

I'll Just Leave My Camera at Home, I Guess . . .

A: I see no reason for a special rule pertaining to wedding photos. The existing boundaries of good social-media citizenship will suffice: Don't post any pictures without the permission of the people in them, or pictures of creative output or private spaces that are plainly a host's prerogative to display.

If couples need explicit embargos to get that across, then it's hard to say whether they or guests are the ones crossing the line.

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