Friday, April 20, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Child's 'grownup' interests just a phase

Q: I've heard that other parents have kids who think the opposite sex is gross until they're preteens, and I am jealous. My beautiful 7-year-old daughter had her first "boyfriend" in preschool. Her best friend's mom was always joking about how cute this or that boy is, so that's my best guess for where she got the idea.

Now I find out my daughter gave notes to her latest "boyfriend" in school saying she can't wait to get married and have his babies. I know she doesn't understand what she's saying, but I still think it should be addressed now. We've talked previously about focusing on just having friends now, and leaving boyfriends for when she's older, and how being in love is special and for when you're older. How much stuck, I don't know. Any advice on how to handle this? I don't think I'm doing it well.

Too Young

A: You're probably doing just fine, as long as you aren't harping on it as something you need to fix NOW (or at all). Go easy on the blame in general. Kids pretend to cook like grownups, work like grownups, drive like grownups — so when they pretend to pair off like grownups, there's no need to launch an inquiry into "where she got the idea."

Keep an eye on any boy-craziness, sure, and even talk about it with a veteran teacher to help you figure out when to be concerned and when not to, but otherwise it's okay to treat your daughter's behavior as a phase unless and until you're confident it's outside the range of normal. (Teachers see so many kids over the years, they're great for getting a sense of what's age appropriate.)

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