Wednesday, January 17, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Give a gift if you want to, regardless of recipient's intention

ive a gift if you want to, without speculating on invite intention

Q: I was given an invite to a wedding, where the bride and groom knew that I definitely could not make it. I am not close to either person, and I really only know the groom's mother. There was a birthday party for a nephew in the family recently, and I splurged and bought an expensive present. A few days later I got the wedding invitation. It was a last-minute thought as the RSVP date on the invite had already passed, and the wedding was three weeks away. What is the appropriate thing to do here? Should I send a gift knowing that was why I got the invite in the first place?

Anonymous

A: I agree there's a cloud of suspicion around this invitation, but there's no penalty for assuming the best. Do you want to give a gift, yes/no? That, and only that, governs whether you send the couple anything more than regrets.

It's okay to wear jewelry given by an ex, isn't it?

Q: I can hardly believe I am even typing this. I am in a great relationship. I recently wore a necklace given to me by a former boyfriend, and a co-worker thought that was terrible.

I would never wear an engagement ring from a former fiance, but I think a necklace is just a necklace. Am I crazy? Is there really bad jewelry mojo?

Jewelry Mojo

A: Wear the jewelry — but if the commentary bothers you, then keep the backstory home in a drawer.

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