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Tell Me About It: Is breakup a good reason to move home?

Q: Almost two years ago, I moved across the country to be with my boyfriend and to fulfill my dream of living on the other coast. I found a great job, a good group of friends, spent time with boyfriend's family, but always thought that we would make our way back to the other side of the country for grad school or the next job.

Then, a few weeks ago, we suddenly and unexpectedly broke up.

I'm trying to be practical and wait until emotions are less raw, but I'm aching to pack up and move as soon as my lease ends. I'll be at a good transition point in my work, the majority of my good friends and all of my family are across the country, and my closest social networks here are tied up with his. I'm torn between feeling like a wuss for "running away," and thinking that it is really the most logical step.

Any thoughts on how to approach this decision?

Running Away or Moving On

Carolyn: You were expecting and wanting to go back, and now you have the opportunity that is imminent but not rushed. Don't overthink it.

Anonymous: Here's a second for going back. You're not running away, you're moving on, and sometimes life hands you those opportunities

Carolyn: Thanks. There's always going to be some sense that you're picking up your carefully built life and shaking it, hard. Just because you have that feeling, that does not automatically mean you're being rash or overcorrecting or running away.

Tell Me About It: Is breakup a good reason to move home? 01/09/14 [Last modified: Thursday, January 9, 2014 6:09pm]
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