Thursday, May 24, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Look closer at bombshell buddy's life

Q: I'm friends with a group of men and women who have known each other since college. Another of our old college friends just moved to the area and has started hanging out with us.

Where in college she was pretty in a kind of goofy, careless way, she is now a bombshell who is in meticulous shape, has money to spend on things like hair and nails, and shows up everywhere dressed to the nines. She eclipses us all.

Hanging out with her one-on-one is actually pretty nice, but hanging out with her in groups drives me crazy. My male friends treat her like she is the Messiah, giving her credit for being smarter, funnier and more interesting than she actually is. Even though she has a boyfriend, she is an incredible flirt, and she diverts all the attention to her when we go out in all-female groups. I think most of the attention she gets is solely because of her looks. How do I learn to relate to and be nicer to her, given that I resent her so badly?

Being Kind to the Bombshell

A: Embrace this little nugget in your question: "just moved to the area." Novelty is her friend, and time is yours. She is apparently your friend, too, so make some extra effort to be hers. That being with her one-on-one is "actually pretty nice" is a memo to you: It says her looks have the potential to give her a pedestal among admiring men, but cost her the kind of leeway potential friends would grant her if she weren't hot.

Meanwhile, pedestal life can get drafty; attention for looks is shallow and temporary. In that light, it's hard to see the attention she gets as "positive" — one way to keep resentment in check.

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