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Tell Me About It: Odd friend out of group has some choices to make

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Q: Four great friends do a lot together, "Jeanne," "Sophie," "Kaylie" and "Penny." Over time, Sophie constantly "finds faults" with Jeanne and begins to alienate her from the group. Sophie doesn't share this with Jeanne and doesn't want her to know. Penny and Kaylie tell Jeanne the "faults" Sophie sees. Feelings are that good friends should be able to let you know what "faults" are upsetting you so that you can correct them.

Sophie leaves the group. No longer wants anything to do with any of the friends.

Now Sophie wants to be friends with Penny and Kaylie, but refuses to be around Jeanne. This puts Penny and Kaylie in an awkward situation. What would you recommend for Jeanne? Walk away from everyone? Avoid Sophie when she is around? Be cordial to Sophie, but no more?

Friends on Sophie's Terms

A: Sophie, Kaylie and Penny frighten Carolyn. Penny and Kaylie are not in an "awkward situation," they're in a decency test — and failing it with flying colors. Here's the answer to Sophie that prevents a snake pit: "Join us all, or don't. Up to you."

It's their second F, actually. They earned the first by reporting the "faults" back to Jeanne. The A+ answer was, to Sophie: "Whatever problems you have with Jeanne, take up with Jeanne. Stop trashing her to us."

As for Jeanne, it's her call whether any of these friends is worth keeping. If she stays, though, she'd best don skivvies of steel.

Tell Me About It: Odd friend out of group has some choices to make

01/21/14 [Last modified: Monday, January 20, 2014 6:02pm]
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