Q: I am in a relatively new relationship. Her good friend is in love with her. My girlfriend has repeatedly rejected her advances and pronouncements of undying love. The last time this woman (who at the time did not know about me) saw my girlfriend, she attempted to seduce her.
I trust my girlfriend. However, I am uncomfortable with their friendship. I explained that, while I didn't want to dictate her friendships, I needed to be honest and say this girl makes me uncomfortable. I am wondering what you would recommend.
Partner
A: I'd recommend fighting the impulse to see all past lovers and rivals as unsuitable friends.
Preserving a valued friendship can be incentive enough for even bold and persistent admirers to set their longings aside. She didn't know about you, and now does; give her time to show respect for your place.
If she doggedly refuses to, then you act. Decide what your limits are and tell your girlfriend you're drawing that line.
Engaged worker considers changing jobs
Q: I recently got engaged to a wonderful woman, and we're very excited to get married next year. I'm not incredibly happy at work. I'm concerned that starting a new job will make things more difficult as I make this other big change (getting married) at the same time. Should I be safe or daring in general while I prepare for this other big (although wonderful) life change?
In Love But Not with Work
A: Start the job hunt now, because you don't know how long it will take or what it will to bring. What you do know is that you're stressed by your current job, and so why not at least try to fix that? You can stop looking any time it feels like too many life changes at once.
Obviously you have to talk about all of this with your fiancee.