Q: My daughter dated a guy in college for two years. Then they broke up. After a year and a half, he joined the Army and they started talking again. After four months, he came home and they spent five days together. Now, they plan to marry in November. My husband and I are completely against this. We've told her our concerns that they haven't spent enough time together. Do you have any knowledge of marriages that begin like this and their chances of success?
A: There are examples to support every possible outcome — happily ever after, imploding instantly, a promising start and a slow unraveling, growing and learning together beautifully after a rough start, on-again-off-again hell — so don't even bother to go down that road. They've made up their minds, so trust them, love them and respect them enough as adults to bite your tongue. If it works, great, if it doesn't, they'll learn from it.
Watching sibling's shenanigans is a double scoop of frustration
Q: My charming, irresponsible sibling is getting bailed out again (for failing to deal with a problem everyone has seen coming for years) and I'm furious. There's no solution here. I'm thinking of going with a primal scream. Or ice cream.
Ferris Bueller's Sister
A: Why not both? Even if you could live your life the way your sibling lives his or hers, you wouldn't. Never lose sight of that.