Monday, January 22, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Teenage father grows with son

Here is an update from a letter-writer. The woman was being asked to help care for her teenage son's baby, even though she had urged the baby's mother to place the child for adoption. ( wapo.st/1dfDkoA)

I wanted to give you an update to "Teen son's baby needs your love." The child is now 2 1/2 and we all have a strong bond and successful relationship. Here are some of the highlights from the past two years.

The baby's mother was not happy with the living arrangement she had at her mother's home so for five months she and the baby lived with us.

This was a perfect way for us to really bond with the baby. After five months, the mother chose to move out of our house.

From that point on, we had contact or visitation 50 percent of the time. At the beginning of her senior year, she and her boyfriend moved into an apartment. The good news is we have known this boy most of his life and think he is a good guy. We live in a small town. Hopefully this relationship will endure. We have gone to court twice to legally establish the 50-50 custody arrangement.

Your big question is, how did my son evolve? He is amazing. He was tentative the first year. He did what was required and not much more. Then a miracle transpired. The baby turned 1. He started walking, talking and specifically saying, "DaDa." That was all it took.

My son is a better father to his son than many men twice his age. He never complains and has enormous patience. He asks questions, learns quickly and looks up information. It is a blessing to watch.

A Loving Grandma

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