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Tell Me About It: Time will tell if relationship was beneficial

Q: I have been perpetually single my entire adult life, until last weekend when the man I have been dating for the past several months and I decided to see each other exclusively. However, during our talk, he did state that he thinks our relationship probably won't last long-term. I have been extremely happy since we talked and really feel like this is the right situation for me. He is great and is the only person I want to date at this moment. I also feel like the relationship is low-pressure; we can have our own lives, and keep some aspects of my single lifestyle.

My friends think I am selling myself short and should look for someone who sees a future with me. Part of me thinks they are right, the other part of me wants to spend the next few months with someone who makes me happy. Having said that, I am 30 and I would like to get married someday. Is this relationship a waste of time?

If It Makes You Happy ...

A: Maybe these few months of happy will give you a useful window into your own needs in future relationships, and maybe they'll become a painful obstacle to finding what you want. Pay attention to what your experience tells you, since it probably points to the most likely outcome.

If you don't have enough relationship history to read through for clues, then broaden the scope and look back for any signs of kidding yourself and/or knowing yourself pretty well. Consider how well your friends know you, too. The issue is not whether you can do better, though, since you clearly can, but whether this detour is one you'll regret or be grateful you took.

Tell Me About It: Time will tell if relationship was beneficial 02/21/14 [Last modified: Thursday, February 20, 2014 7:01pm]

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