Wednesday, December 13, 2017
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Too big a crowd for family vacation

Q: My husband and I are taking our two kids to Europe this summer. We have invited my parents along, as we enjoy their company. They, however, turned around and invited my sister's family, whose company we do not enjoy. How do we tell my parents that we do not want them to come? This is our only vacation for the year, and we would like to enjoy it.

Frustrated

A: You either go with everyone, or you say no to the three-family circus and accept the fallout. "Mom and Dad, I'm upset that you invited Sister's family on the trip without talking to me first. I don't enjoy traveling with them." It might help to ask your parents how they'd like you to handle this. If they bow out, for example, then you can say the trip is now just for your immediate family — which is less of a targeted slap to your sister.

Woman doesn't get say about ex-husband's ring recycling

Q: My ex-husband and I have learned to co-parent well and are supportive of each other. He recently remarried. I commented on how much his ring looks like his "old" one. That's when I was hit upside the head with, "Oh, it's the same ring!" He said he hadn't told his new wife. The ring has a personal inscription inside. Should I bring this up to her? I don't want to cause problems between us or between them. I'm just very uncomfortable with this situation.

Ex-Wife

A: You divorced him already; his marriage isn't your problem.

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