Tuesday, January 16, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Unfriend your ex; don't prod your parent

Unfriend your ex and move on

Q: After we broke up, my ex and I remained friends on Facebook. I think I did it because I'd hoped we'd get back together. Now, I continually see this barrage of photos and status updates of her with someone else, and it really rubs salt in my wounds.

Should I unfriend her now to spare myself the drama, or should I hold off, just in case she breaks off the new relationship someday? I've tried to date other people, but she's still my first choice. If I do unfriend her, should I tell her I did so or just do it and move on?

Thinking of Letting Go to Save My Sanity

A: Pull the plug. No explanation.

In the time you won't be using to watch her status updates, or date people you only measure against her, or strategize the rekindling of your relationship, consider doing this: Be your own first choice. Better things come when you do.

Think your dad is exploited? Ask gently if he's happy

Q: As an adult, is it ever okay to tell your parent you don't like their significant other or that you think their significant other doesn't treat them well? I feel like my dad's girlfriend is taking advantage of him. He spends a lot of time, money and effort on her. She spends little of those things on him. Because my dad's an adult, well, he gets to choose who he spends time with. I just hate watching it.

Anonymous

A: "So, how are things going with Girlfriend? Are you happy?" Then, you listen. People will often find a way to tell you whether your concern would be welcome or seen as an imposition.

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