Tuesday, September 25, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Wedding invite to estranged mom is risky

Q: My mom is a bipolar narcissist. She is estranged from me, my sister and my dad, her ex-husband.

Unlike my dad and sister, I never foreclosed on the possibility of reconnecting.

I just proposed to my boyfriend. There is no wedding date set yet, but I want to consider having my mom there. It will be thorny, to say the least. But my gut tells me that I would feel a tremendous loss without her presence.

I am on the fence about inviting her, as it would also mean re-establishing contact. I cannot decide how to proceed. What are your thoughts?

Never Foreclosed

A: Since "it would also mean re-establishing contact," why peg it to your wedding day? Why don't you re-establish contact for the sake of it, and then make up your mind? Or, probably closer to the truth, let her make up your mind.

Honor ex-boyfriend's wish for no contact

Q: My boyfriend and I broke up this week. He wanted to move in and get married and I'm not quite there yet, so we came to a mutual agreement that parting ways was the right decision.

I'd still be up for being the best friends we were before we started dating. He wanted no contact because he said talking, emailing or texting, even at a reduced level, would be too painful. Of course, I agreed to his wishes.

Is there ever a point where I can check in with him to see what he's up to? I'm genuinely curious about how life is going for him.I would only do it some pre-determined time from now (six months?), but I don't know if it's a good idea at all.

Contacting the Ex?

A: I think you have to leave him alone unless and until you change your mind about marrying him. Being "genuinely curious" is not enough — especially since it's about you, not him.


Tell Me About It: Bean-counting brother needs a lesson in kindness

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Published: 09/21/18
Mark your calendar for these Halloween events

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Published: 09/19/18

Tell Me About It: Frequently displaced wife has had enough moves

Q: I have been married to my second husband for 24 years. We have a 16-year-old and I have two adult children.I have moved seven times in 17 years for his job. He didnít have to quit and take another job, but they were opportunities for him to climb ...
Published: 09/19/18
Where to find kid-friendly, not-so-scary Halloween fun

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Published: 09/18/18

Tell Me About It: Busy couple seeks ways to downsize for the future

Q: Over a decade, my salary has tripled (Iím quite well-paid now), my work hours and responsibilities have increased, and ó because Iím so frequently tired or short on time ó my "outsourcing" has increased, too. Think: frequent takeout, a dog-walker,...
Published: 09/18/18

Tell Me About It: Parents want bully brother to be his best man

Q: Iím getting married. Thatís awesome. However, my parents want me to ask my brother to be my best man. The idea of letting my brother, whoís spent his whole life being the biggest jerk he can manage, stand up and give a speech about me makes me wan...
Published: 09/17/18

Tell Me About It: Mom is frustrated by teenís dislike of academics

Q: I have a 15-year-old son who is obviously bright but hates school. My husband and I canít helicopter him to success because (a) we donít want to be helicopter parents, and (b) he has developed ninja-like skills when it comes to evading any attempt...
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Tell Me About It: In search of ways to stop the family over-talker

Q: During extended family get-togethers with my side of the family, there is one person who does 95 percent of the talking. When I ask someone else in the room a question about their lives, this person always jumps in and takes over the conversation ...
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Busch Gardens reveals plans for Tigris, Florida's tallest launch roller coaster

Busch Gardens reveals plans for Tigris, Florida's tallest launch roller coaster

Busch Gardens will open Florida’s tallest launch coaster in spring 2019, company officials announced Wednesday. The triple-launch, tiger-themed roller coaster called Tigris will hurl riders 150 feet into the sky, turn them upside down and swirl...
Published: 09/12/18

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