Wednesday, December 13, 2017
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Texting driver? Time to quit the carpool

Q: I carpool with another young professional about an hour each way into our office. I'm lucky to save on gas, but my carpool engages in near constant texting when it's his turn to drive us. About once a week I ask him to put his phone down while driving, but I'm met with an emphatic "I'm not texting! I'm (insert other screen activity here)" or another crack about my own driving habits.

I'm diligent about putting my phone away while driving and very rarely if ever fiddle with the stereo behind the wheel. I'm at a loss as to how to explain exactly how dangerous this is, not just to us, but to everyone on the road. Short of breaking up the carpool, what would you suggest?

Carpool

A: Break up the carpool.

I'm all for saving money and gas, but, really? I can't help you if you wrap up your question by ruling out the only good answer.

Maybe we can both get our way when you tell him, "Either your phone goes in the backseat or I'm not carpooling with you anymore" — but he's still going to be a combination of defensive and overconfident in his driving ability, and that's a problem even if he stops texting.

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