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Tell Me About It: You may learn a little about you at reunion

Q: Do you think people should go to their high school reunions? I skipped my 10th and there were people in my life who genuinely couldn't understand why I would do such a thing. I had a former co-worker tell me to definitely go to my 20th.

I just don't see any reason to go. I'm not curious about anyone. I was bullied. And I would only go to be a braggy braggerson ("I live in New York City now and celebrities and musicians know my name and say hi to me!"), and their responses would all be, "How many kids do you have and how big is the house you own because those are our measures of success." I just don't see the point.

Anonymous

A: Some "genuinely couldn't understand why I would do such a thing": Really? People capable of seeing things only one way are automatically suspect. Reunions are strictly a matter of personal experience and preference.

That said: If you are going only to brag and judge, then it's still too early to go. Go when you don't give a (road apple) what people think of you. That's when you're open to seeing how much better people can get after life throws them around a bit.

Now, some jerks are absolutely immune to seeing themselves for who they really are — but I think by the 25th, many will surprise you for having gotten over themselves.

Meanwhile, it can be cathartic to talk to people who shared your past and shaped your present. Consider going not to catch up with classmates you haven't thought about in X decades, but to learn more about you.

Tell Me About It: You may learn a little about you at reunion 01/03/14 [Last modified: Friday, January 3, 2014 9:12am]

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