Sunday, June 17, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It:

Q: I have three children under 8. Last summer, my niece and nephew both participated in travel sports, which took up nearly every weekend.

I know each family should do what is best for them, but this affects our entire family. Our parents are getting older and really cherish seeing all of us together. I tried to put together a Mother's Day brunch, but it was the first tournament of the year for both kids. For our parents' 55th anniversary, my sister said the best they could do is a family dinner on a Tuesday.

Should I discuss this issue with her, or try to let it go? How much should I visit my parents to make up for her absence?

Sister Overbooks

A: Please stop making this about your sister's priorities. Judging her will only escalate this into a much deeper, hurtful feud.

Instead, ask your sister to join you, calendars in hand, in finding dates the whole family can get together. Even without travel athletes, it's typical for three separate families to have a hard time lining up their free time, and that gives you two choices. You can insist on special dates and open yourself to all kinds of frustration, or you can embrace the idea that sometimes Christmas will be in January and your parents' anniversary will come a month late.

You, after all, in a way are sacrificing family time by insisting that you honor your mother only on Mother's Day instead of choosing a workable date.

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