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Tell Me About It: Readers advise on infidelity and more

enefits of older parents, infidelity, more

While I'm away, readers give the advice.

On repairing a marriage torn by infidelity:

The non-offending spouse needs to take a very hard look in the mirror and ask themselves, did I contribute to my spouse straying from our marriage?

Oftentimes we quit being romantic, we shut down, we take for granted our lives ... and leave our spouses alone physically and emotionally. A very dangerous way to leave your spouse is empty going out into the world each day.

A Dad in Boise

On having older parents:

My mother was 35 and my father 51 when I was born. Age was an issue in that my dad died when I was 28, and mom lived another 22 years. Beyond that, though, I had the benefit of life experiences that went back to before World War I through landing on the moon — an incredibly rich upbringing. And they were thrilled I came along, an even greater layer to their parental love.


On being denied the truth about one's parentage:

At 18, people are no longer children and should be given access to all information regarding their identity. Failure to do deprives them and their descendants of their civil rights to their heritage and ancestry.

Sure parents make decisions about children to ostensibly protect them — but once we are of legal age, parental legal supremacy is over and we should be given the truth of our origins.

The circumstances of our conception and ancestry belong to us — the adults had their time and they made their decisions when we were too young to have our own voices. Secrets and lies have no place in healthy families, and withholding identity is a particularly heinous form of discrimination.

Adult Adoptee

Tell Me About It: Readers advise on infidelity and more 12/31/15 [Last modified: Wednesday, December 23, 2015 12:31pm]
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