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The Rev. Mary Glasspool of Baltimore reacts during her election as assistant bishop on Dec. 5 in Los Angeles.

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The Rev. Mary Glasspool of Baltimore reacts during her election as assistant bishop on Dec. 5 in Los Angeles.

LOS ANGELES — In the space of a week, Mary Glasspool has gone from being an obscure priest in Baltimore to the emblem of a growing international tempest over gay bishops in the Episcopal Church.

The lesbian priest with salt-and-pepper hair — one of two newly elected "suffragan," or assistant bishops in Los Angeles — has become a potent symbol of hope for gays in the national church but a portent of doom for traditionalists worried about their denomination unraveling.

Ask Glasspool, 55, about her central role in the turbulence that has drawn the disapproving eye of the Archbishop of Canterbury, the spiritual leader of the global Anglican Communion, and she offers a lament: The struggle for gay rights in the church has never been her primary mission, she says, even as she speaks proudly of her 22-year relationship with her partner, social worker Becki Sander.

Why, she wonders, should a single attribute come to define her after nearly three decades in ministry, years she has spent building congregations, tackling poverty and racism, and making official parish visits in her current role as canon, or senior assistant, to the Diocese of Maryland bishops.

"You don't get a headline that says, 'Well-qualified priest elected bishop suffragan of the Diocese of Los Angeles,' " she said. "You don't get, 'Fabulous preacher or great joyful person elected.'

"What you get is, 'Lesbian priest.' It segregates out one of the many, many aspects of my personality."

Those who have worshiped and worked with Glasspool say she is, above all, a forthright and deeply religious woman who exudes a contagious energy and has an uncanny knack for connecting with parishioners. She is, they say, someone who long ago seemed destined for bigger things — and who has kept her private life largely private.

"It would be a shame if history only mentioned Mary Glasspool in terms of her sexuality," said the Right Rev. Eugene Taylor Sutton, primary bishop of the Diocese of Maryland. "She is about a lot more than that. That's why when she walks into a room, people don't see a lesbian. They see a woman of God."

But her commitment has not come without cost, with Sander for a time remaining all but "invisible" to her partner's parishioners, Glasspool said.

The priest, who must be confirmed by a majority of Episcopal Church leaders, is the second gay bishop elected in the church, the U.S. branch of Anglicanism.

She follows the Rev. V. Gene Robinson, a partnered gay priest who was chosen as bishop of New Hampshire in 2003, an action that sent shock waves through the church of 2.1 million members and led to an exodus of dozens of theologically conservative parishes and four dioceses.

After Robinson's consecration, the church agreed to refrain from electing more gay bishops but reversed course at its national convention in Anaheim last summer, lifting its own de facto ban. The Diocese of Los Angeles is the first to test the new policy.

Robinson spoke with Glasspool before and after her election last weekend, telling the priest that her elevation reflected something larger than herself. "Staying close to God is the best rule to follow," Robinson said. "I told her that would stand her in good stead and keep everything else in perspective."

A cradle Episcopalian, Glasspool grew up in New York and followed her father into the Episcopal priesthood, despite his objections to the ordination of women, an idea then gaining traction in the church. She recalls sitting down with him in his church office as a 19-year-old college student and delivering two pieces of news — one about her priestly ambition, the other about her sexual orientation.

"I came out to him," she recalled. "I said, 'I want you to know who I am. If you feel uncomfortable talking to me about the priesthood, I will go to another parish to do my discernment.'"

Glasspool said her father, who died in 1989, told her that he had suspected she was gay and that he wanted her to be happy.

As for the priesthood, Glasspool said her father asked her to meet with their church's vestry, or lay leaders, saying he would abide by the decision. The vestry signed off on her candidacy and her father wrote a letter to the diocese on her behalf.

Glasspool was ordained in 1982 and, after assisting the priest of a Philadelphia church, took her first position as rector of St. Luke's and St. Margaret's Church, a small congregation in Boston on the brink of closing.

Two parishioners said that she delivered heart-felt, scholarly sermons and personalized services in a way that drew new members. She addressed congregants by first names while handing out Communion bread on Sundays, they recalled, a departure from the practice in other churches.

During her eight-year tenure, the congregation more than doubled, from its original 50, said two of her parishioners.

Glasspool met her partner during this time when Sander, then studying theology and social work, came to interview her for an assignment on women pastors. Sander joined the church, but not all in the congregation knew they were a couple.

And the priest spoke about gay issues only as they related to civil rights for minorities, women and other groups, focusing instead on causes such as homelessness in the surrounding community, church members said.

Glasspool's sexual orientation also remained largely under the radar at her next assignment, as rector of St. Margaret's Episcopal Church in suburban Annapolis, Md. She was the first woman to lead the parish in its 317-year history.

If Glasspool is confirmed as an assistant bishop in Los Angeles, she will find a far different environment. The bishop of the diocese, the Right Rev. J. Jon Bruno, has been an outspoken proponent of gay and lesbian rights in the Episcopal Church. Glasspool's election is a marker in that effort, but she does not see herself becoming a crusader.

"I want to stay focused, stay centered spiritually," she said. "My top priority is serving God's people in God's church."

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