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My kids forgot to do chores again

Q: My wife and I are extremely frustrated that we are always seem to be reminding our children, ages 10 and 14, to do their chores. They know exactly what they're supposed to be doing, but they're constantly "forgetting" — even if it's something they've done three times a week for the past six months. We've discussed this with some of our friends who have kids, and they all have the same problem. Is there some way to get kids to do their chores without having to nag them?

A: Kids have been forgetting to do their chores since the beginning of time, and parents have been nagging just as long. No question, kids sometimes "forget" their chores as a way of getting out of doing them — an approach that's often successful. But sometimes they really do forget — even after being reminded repeatedly. Unfortunately, there's no sure-fire cure for this kind of selective memory loss, but there are a few strategies that may help.

Money. It's never too early to start teaching your kids about money, and one way to really motivate them to pitch in is to give them a financial incentive. Of course you're not going to pay them to do everything: Everyone has to contribute, and doing certain things around the house comes with having a roof over their head and meals on the table. However, you could come up with a list of bigger, out-of-the-ordinary, paid jobs that are available only to people who have done their basic chores first.

Natural consequences. Some people disagree, but I think natural consequences can be very effective. Do your kids forget to bring you their dirty laundry? No problem. Just don't wash their clothes. When they're all out of clean stuff, and their dirty ones can stand up on their own, they might appreciate the fact that you would have washed them if they'd held up their end of the deal. And if they forget to take the dog for a walk and she poops on the carpet, well, they'll have to clean it up.

Use a watch. Kids often are motivated by having a time limit, especially when they know that blowing that limit results in something negative. If your kids aren't doing the dishes, give him an hour to get them done, or they go to bed an hour earlier than normal, with no TV, books, tablet time, or whatever is part of the normal bedtime routine. You might be surprised at how quickly they take to the new order of things.

Work, then play. When you go to your office, you probably don't start the day off with a long break or an hour-long chat with your co-workers over coffee. Chances are you start your day by doing what you're paid to do. The same concept should apply to your kids. Let them know they don't get to have fun or do things they enjoy until their chores are done. That includes watching The Walking Dead, playing Titanfall, and anything else that they might consider to be more exciting than doing the dishes (which, in all honesty, would be pretty much everything).

Ultimately, what you're trying to do here is find the right to motivate your kids — and to turn that motivation into a habit. It may take some experimenting, but it's worth the effort.

McClatchy-Tribune News Service

My kids forgot to do chores again 03/30/14 [Last modified: Sunday, March 30, 2014 1:20pm]
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