Make us your home page

Today’s top headlines delivered to you daily.

(View our Privacy Policy)

Still turned on to idea of sex

Women over 50 like sex.

Now, that's a news flash. To everyone except women over 50, that is.

"There's this popular public perception that as women age, sex becomes unimportant and that women just stop having sex as they get older," said Holly Thomas, a University of Pittsburgh researcher. "From our study, it looks like most women continue to have sex."

For four years, Thomas tracked 354 women ages 45 to 60 who said they were sexually active. One in 10 ranked sex as extremely important. Half said it was moderately important. At the end of the four years, 85 percent of them remained sexually active.

Viagra maker Pfizer's global study is still oft-cited 12 years after the drug company interviewed more than 26,000 people ages 40 to 80 in 29 countries about the importance of sex. Asked how much they agreed or disagreed with the statement "Older people no longer want sex," 64 percent of men and 56 percent of women strongly disagreed. And, when asked how important sex was in their life, 83 percent of men and 63 percent of women said very or moderately important. These results suggest that when older people aren't having sex, it is likely because they have no available partner.

Which brings me to two of my closest divorced girlfriends on opposite sides of the country who, in their searches for Mr. Right, found cads that they've stayed with, looking past their flaws so they can have a playmate. For them, having a regular sex partner, it seems, is better than no sex partner at all, even if the guy's not perfect.

Unfortunately, women (my friends) don't like other women (me) pointing out their man's flaws. So I save my disparaging remarks for the occasional opportunity to pile on when they start bad-mouthing the louses themselves and just hope they someday find a nice man who likes older women who like sex. Maybe a guy like Chuck Nyren, 74, humor columnist and author of Advertising to Baby Boomers.

"I thank my lucky stars I've lived long enough to go nutty over older women's bodies," he wrote last month on Huffington Post's "Post 50" blog.

"With each one, you can't memorize the whole body. There's so much going on! Contours aplenty, shapes galore, curves, mounds, crannies, sections soft, hard, comfy to hold. When they move any which way, they change!

"With younger bodies … they're the same from top to bottom. Same shape, same skin, same rubbery feel. Nothing much there. Unfinished, incomplete. Like they were just hatched from pods — smooth and slippery, no essence yet. And only a few curves and barely any crannies. Bland and simple. Uninteresting," Nyren said.

It's a sweet thought if not a backhanded compliment. Let's just hope the lover of all things soft and comfy has the sense not to whisper words like "crannies" and "mounds" in his lover's ear.

Patti Ewald can be reached at or (727) 893-8746.

Still turned on to idea of sex 06/23/14 [Last modified: Monday, June 23, 2014 7:43pm]
Photo reprints | Article reprints

© 2017 Tampa Bay Times


Join the discussion: Click to view comments, add yours

  1. St. Petersburg police investigating why civilian employees accidentally fired AR-15 semiautomatic rife inside HQ


    ST. PETERSBURG — An internal police investigation is looking into two civilian employees who accidentally fired a round from an AR-15 semiautomatic rifle inside St. Petersburg Police Department headquarters.

    The St. Petersburg Police Department is investigating an incident in which two civilian employees accidentally fired an AR-15 semiautomatic rifle they brought inside police headquarters. Department rules prohibit civilian employees from bringing weapons into police facilities.
  2. A 12-foot pilot whale washes ashore on Siesta Key


    A 12-foot-long beached pilot whale appeared on the shore of Point of Rocks Beach in Siesta Key early Friday morning, according to the Sarasota County Sheriff's Office.

    The Sarasota County Sheriff's Office responded to a 12-foot whale washing ashore early Friday morning. (Sarasota Sheriff's Office)
  3. Trump signs 'VA accountability' bill, as Gus Bilirakis watches


    WASHINGTON - Rep. Gus Bilirakis was among a group of lawmakers on hand to see President Trump sign a "VA accountability bill that will make it easier to dismiss problem employees.

  4. In this June 18, 2012, file photo President Barack Obama and Russia's President Vladimir Putin, left, go to shake hands during their bilateral meeting at the G20 Summit in Los Cabos, Mexico. [AP photo]
  5. Gradebook podcast: Charter school fraud, budget woes and more


    School districts across Florida have been grappling with financial concerns they contend lawmakers did not improve with a new state education budget. Reporter Marlene Sokol joins reporter Jeff Solochek to discuss the problems as they're manifest in Hillsborough County, which has local woes beyond anything the state has …

    Hillsborough School Board member April Griffin has been asking pointed questions about the district's budget.