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Career Q&A: Perfume has no place in the office

Q: My co-worker's perfume is driving me crazy. Whenever I'm near "Brittany," my eyes water and I start to get a headache. After I talked with human resources, Brittany was moved to a different cubicle, but I still have to walk past her several times a day. I went to HR again, but nothing changed. What should I do?

A: No one should wear perfume to work. Ever. There is no reason to do so, and many people find the smell offensive. For those who are allergic to the ingredients, perfume feels like office air pollution.

Instead of relocating your fragrant colleague, the HR manager should have simply told Brittany to ditch the scents. But because that didn't happen, just be thankful that she is no longer nearby and walk quickly whenever you have to pass her desk.

Weighing career change: stay or go?

Q: I feel as though I'm trapped in the family business. For the past 10 years, I have worked for my father-in-law, "Frank." My brother- and sister-in-law are also employed here. When Frank retires, the three of us are supposed to take over the company.

My fear is that this arrangement will not work out well. For one thing, I'm not sure that three people can actually run a business together. Also, Frank tends to be very controlling and could have a hard time letting go. These issues could adversely affect the company's success.

I left the corporate world to join this family firm, and I sometimes regret that decision. I know I have the potential to do more, but with a wife and three kids to support, changing jobs seems risky. When I once mentioned that possibility, Frank angrily threatened to sabotage my career.

Although I think about this regularly, I can't make up my mind. Should I stay and do my best to help the business succeed? Or should I get up my nerve and quit, hoping that my wife will back me up?

A: If you quit the family business without consulting your wife, you will have a whole new set of problems. Your career choice affects her in many ways, so don't make this decision unilaterally. Instead, the two of you must carefully weigh the pros and cons.

As you ponder your options, try to imagine your desired future five years down the road. What kind of work would be most fulfilling? What sort of lifestyle do you hope to have? What is most important for your children? See which path seems more likely to lead to your ideal scenario.

Because your father-in-law is something of a bully, either choice will require some careful planning. If you elect to stay, you need a legal agreement describing Frank's eventual transition to retirement and the subsequent partnership with your in-laws. But if you choose to leave, you must prepare for the inevitable family drama.

Even though the decision is difficult, you need to make a conscious choice based on your goals. Don't stay just because leaving is hard, and don't leave just because the family is frustrating.

Career Q&A: Perfume has no place in the office 06/13/14 [Last modified: Friday, June 13, 2014 10:27pm]
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