Make us your home page
Career Q&A | By Marie G. McIntyre, McClatchy-Tribune Newspapers

Lower the volume on distracting, annoying co-worker

Q: "Paula," one of our team members, talks so loudly that we can hear every word of her phone conversations and discussions with other co-workers. The constant sound of her voice is both distracting and annoying. I personally believe this is just Paula's pathetic attempt to show us how busy and important she is.

Everyone walks on eggshells around Paula, including our team leader, because she is very defensive and can be downright mean if someone rubs her the wrong way. To make it worse, Paula is good friends with the human resources manager, so no one is willing to complain about her. What can we do about this?

A: Politically intelligent people know how to raise issues diplomatically without sharing all their feelings. Instead of attributing questionable motives to your vociferous colleague, try taking the slightly more charitable view that Paula might be experiencing a hearing loss. Making this reasonable assumption will allow you to approach the HR manager in a spirit of helpfulness.

For example: "We've noticed that Paula seems to talk quite loudly almost all the time. This is very distracting for the rest of us, and we're beginning to think she might have a hearing problem. We're not comfortable bringing up such a delicate subject, but since you seem to have a good relationship with Paula, we thought you might be able to ask about it."

After that, having done all you can do, you just need to let it go. If you're lucky, the HR manager will take steps to resolve the problem. And who knows, perhaps Paula really does need a hearing aid.

Talk to boss about keeping her in loop

Q: In an effort to attract new customers, the small shop where I work recently created a Facebook page. During weekly staff meetings, our manager has the whole team brainstorm Facebook ideas, then authorizes me to make the changes. Before I post an update, I always talk with her to be sure I have it right.

Recently, a co-worker informed me that our manager feels I'm not keeping her up-to-date regarding the information on Facebook. Apparently, she doesn't remember our discussions. Should I start sending her a confirming email after every conversation?

A: Having received this news through the grapevine, you need to be careful about jumping to premature conclusions. Instead of getting all worked up over hearsay, talk with your manager directly, describe your concerns and suggest a strategy.

For example: "I want to be sure that you are aware of everything on our Facebook page, so I try not to post any updates without your approval. To ensure that you have all the information in advance, would you like me to send you a summary email before I make changes to Facebook?"

Managers frequently have unspoken expectations about communication, so it's always a good idea to inquire about their preferences. If your colleague's comment was correct, your boss will undoubtedly appreciate your desire to keep her in the loop. On the other hand, you may find that there really is no problem.

Inform HR of time clock shenanigans

Q: My co-workers and I recently discovered that our supervisor has been punching the time clock for an employee who was not at work. The supervisor apparently felt sorry for her because she had used up all her vacation and sick days. This seems wrong, but we're not sure what to do about it. Should we send copies of our documentation to our supervisor's boss?

A: Your best bet is to share this information with the human resources manager, who has responsibility for seeing that leave policies are fairly administered throughout the company. If your business is too small to have an HR department, then upper management is your only recourse. Just be sure to carefully weigh the risks and benefits before lodging your complaint.

Lower the volume on distracting, annoying co-worker 04/28/12 [Last modified: Saturday, April 28, 2012 4:31am]
Photo reprints | Article reprints

Copyright: For copyright information, please check with the distributor of this item, Tribune News Service.

Join the discussion: Click to view comments, add yours

  1. Federal agencies demand records from SeaWorld theme park


    ORLANDO — Two federal agencies are reportedly demanding financial records from SeaWorld.

    Killer whales Ikaika and Corky participate in behaviors commonly done in the wild during SeaWorld's Killer Whale educational presentation in this photo from Jan. 9. SeaWorld has been subpoenaed by two federal agencies for comments that executives and the company made in August 2014 about the impact from the "Blackfish" documentary. 
[Nelvin C. Cepeda/San Diego Union-Tribune/TNS]
  2. Legalized medical marijuana signed into law by Rick Scott

    State Roundup

    TALLAHASSEE — Gov. Rick Scott on Friday signed into law a broader medical marijuana system for the state, following through on a promise he made earlier this month.

    Gov. Rick Scott signed legislation on Friday that legalizes medical marijuana in Florida.
  3. Line of moms welcome Once Upon A Child to Carrollwood


    CARROLLWOOD — Strollers of all shapes and sizes are lined up in front of the store, and inside, there are racks of children's clothing in every color of the rainbow.

    At Once Upon A Child, you often as many baby strollers outside as you find baby furniture and accessories. It recently opened this location in Carrollwood. Photo by Danielle Hauser
  4. Pastries N Chaat brings North India cuisine to North Tampa


    TAMPA — Pastries N Chaat, a new restaurant offering Indian street food, opened this week near the University of South Florida.

    The menu at Pastries N Chaat includes a large variety of Biriyani, an entree owners say is beloved by millions. Photo courtesy of Pastries N Chaat.
  5. 'Garbage juice' seen as threat to drinking water in Florida Panhandle county


    To Waste Management, the nation's largest handler of garbage, the liquid that winds up at the bottom of a landfill is called "leachate," and it can safely be disposed of in a well that's 4,200 feet deep.

    Three samples that were displayed by Jackson County NAACP President Ronstance Pittman at a public meeting on Waste Management's deep well injection proposal. The sample on the left is full of leachate from the Jackson County landfill, the stuff that would be injected into the well. The sample on the right shows leachate after it's been treated at a wastewater treatment plant. The one in the middle is tap water.