MIAMI — Finding work-life balance when you work together is difficult. Now add in the recession and a sour economy. Couples who work together have had to steer through some tough times that can be trying on their work and home lives.
With budgets tight, Jose Torres of Hispanic Franchise Online Corp. decided to take extreme measures. He began giving his online services away for free to big clients, calling it an introductory trial. The challenge for Torres was convincing his business partner to buy into his marketing strategy. Complicating matters, his business partner was his wife.
"She thought I was crazy," Torres said. "I had to convince her to trust me on this."
When your business partner is your spouse and economic times are tough, every decision affects your financial future and personal life. Drawing lines between the bedroom and boardroom becomes even more complex and survival more critical.
"As the economy lurches and stalls, people realize you can't wait for a job," said David Liu, co-founder and CEO of the Knot, a media company aimed at young couples. "You need to do it on your own, and they are saying, 'Why not do it with my spouse?' "
A recent survey of 1,500 newlyweds by the Knot shows 85 percent would start a business with their spouse.
About a quarter of the entrepreneurs trying to start businesses in the United States are doing so with their spouse, according to a study by Kaufmann Foundation, which funds entrepreneurship education and research. Couples were more likely than individual entrepreneurs to try longer and harder to get their businesses off the ground. "They showed more persistence," said William Forster, a Lehigh University management professor who has studied business partnerships.
A look at a few successful couples shows how they make marriage and business work when the going gets tough.
After long careers in tourism, Carlos and Carmen Segrera turned their orchid hobby into a Miami business called CS Orchids. Each has their niche: Carmen oversees corporate/home orchid leasing and orchid gift arrangements. Carlos performs maintenance on private orchid collections.
However, the recession took a toll on Carmen's side of the business, bringing it to a near halt. With time on her hands, she started going on orchid maintenance calls with Carlos. Before long, she was doing much more than helping with maintenance. She was rearranging pots and setting up displays. "I couldn't help it," Carmen said. "I'm creative. But I could tell he didn't like me to go with him."
Realizing the need to rediscover boundaries, Carmen began investigating new ways to market the company's leasing services. With the lines clearer, the couple sat down together to make tough decisions, including whether to close the warehouse where Carmen stored her supplies and bring everything back into their home. "We talked it through, tightened our belt, and decided if anything I would probably get a smaller warehouse," Carmen said.
Carlos said that after 45 years of marriage, he feels even closer to his wife after being her business partner. "We have our disagreements, but we respect each other's judgment."
Many couples in business together during trying times discover they need to step up communication, talk through differences and discuss feelings in ways that differ from how they interact in their personal relationship. It can get tricky when one spouse declines the other's advice.
In the past few years, Sandra and Jerry Foland's marriage and business partnership survived Sandra's bout with cancer, her firing of their only daughter and a months-long downturn that zapped profits at their Baron Sign Manufacturing firm.
He wanted to drop prices. She wanted to simply work longer hours. Jerry says they pulled through by hashing out differences and keeping a sense of humor. Jerry wants Sandra to relax more, but he accepts it is not her nature. "We went on a cruise for seven days for our 40th anniversary. By the end of the cruise, she had drummed up business."
Recently, though, Sandra's 24/7 business focus wasn't enough. Jerry said they had to communicate in a whole new way when profits eroded, staying completely open to the other's ideas. "Over dinner we made a list of every industry that would have money during a recession, and we marketed to those. We also dropped prices, which was a huge risk. It worked because we were aligned in our strategy."
Most couple-owned businesses start at home, making it critical that heated discussions stay in the home office, work hours are defined, and separation exists.
The Torreses, whose media company operates BuscaTuFranquicia.com, a Spanish-language online marketplace, have a business plan that clarifies work and personal roles. When Anisa steps out of the home office, she's back to being mom to their children. If a business call happens after hours, Jose takes it.
The couple tries to avoid shop talk at the dinner table.
Cindy Krischer Goodman is CEO of BalanceGal LLC, a provider of news and advice on how to balance work and life.