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CLEARWATER — The boy was crying. His upper lip was split wide open, the result of a bad-tempered iguana he had tried to kiss.
On that day in 1995, Sophia Vasileros took her 6-year-old son to the place she knew she'd get help: the office of Deborah Ann French. Time was critical. Dr. French dialed a plastic surgeon.
"You need to stitch up this child," she said. "Now."
The surgeon left the emergency room where he was working and opened his office. That's how Dr. French got things done.
She grew up poor, the daughter of a Louisiana school principal who died at age 29. Her sister died of an embolism at age 22.
Friends at Louisiana State University's medical school remember Dr. French as a social organizer who kept them in line.
Dr. Gloria Richard-Davis, 51, said Dr. French often hosted informal dinners in her apartment, where she served her famous gumbo, red beans and rice, and pecan pie.
All she asked of guests was to arrive on time. For latecomers, there was no slipping in quietly.
"She would say, 'You know what time I said dinner is, and you come in here late?' " Richard-Davis said.
She urged her friends on in school. "She was always the one who studied, no matter what," said Dr. Patricia Wright. "She would say, 'Come on, we don't need to look at TV. We need to study and get enough sleep.' "
She played as hard as she worked.
When it was time to take a break — say, 2 a.m. — the band of students took in New Orleans night life, sometimes staying out past sunrise.
"We'd stay out till the crack of dawn," said Richard-Davis. "But she would go straight from partying to church while the rest of us were staggering home to bed.
"Then she would talk about the rest of us like a dog."
Friends celebrated Dr. French's humor, which Richard-Davis called "a dry jab. She'd cut you and stand back."
Parents discovered that mirth differently, a playful spirit with children and a mastery of down-to-earth communication.
"She could pull off a diaper and take a whiff and say, 'This child needs its formula changed,' " said Susan Baumgarner of Clearwater. Baumgarner, now 47, came to Dr. French as a frightened new mother with twins born eight weeks prematurely.
"When we walked in the door, she treated all three of us, not just the baby," she said.
She kept her own diagnosis largely private. Doctors discovered ovarian cancer 10 years ago. The disease went in and out of remission at least twice. She pressed on because that was her nature, and also because she wanted to survive through her daughter's growing-up years.
Dr. French became active in Camp Mak-a-Dream, a camp for children who have cancer, and visited the camp several times in Missoula, Mont.
She remained in practice until November. In March, after she could not hold food down, she talked frankly with Richard-Davis, who is now the chairwoman of obstetrics at Meharry Medical College in Nashville.
"It was an unbelievable conversation," Richard-Davis said. Dr. French seemed ready, accepting.
She had sold her medical practice and talked extensively with her husband and daughter.
Dr. French died Friday. She was 52.
Patients remember her as one of a kind.
"You know how sometimes you meet someone," Baumgarner said, "and you just know right away that they just have that warmth, that inner compassion?
"You just felt like she wrapped her arms around you as soon as you met her. She didn't have to touch you, but you just knew she was there."
Andrew Meacham can be reached at (813) 661-2431 or ameacham@sptimes.com.
>>BIOGRAPHY
Deborah Ann French
Born: May 29, 1955.
Died: May 16, 2008.
Survivors: husband, John "Greg" Dean; daughter, Sadie; nephew, Jefferson "J.J." Harris; other relatives and friends.
Service: 11 a.m. today, Calvary Baptist Church of Clearwater, 110 N McMullen-Booth Road. Interment to follow at Sylvan Abbey Memorial Park, 2853 Sunset Point Road, Clearwater.
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Comments on this article
by Sharon
May 26, 2008 10:38 AM
Dr. French was always wonderful to be around on several of the Jack and Jill social activities. She loved doing things with the teens and moms. She and Sadie were a joy to be around. She will truly be missed. With Love Sharon & Ramon Snow
by Kristin
May 25, 2008 12:46 PM
Wow! Dr. French was mine & my husband's pediatrician. Then she became our daughters' pediatrician too. She was an awesome doctor & person. She will truly be missed. Our prayers go out to her family. With love.
Brett, Kristin, Kelsey & Kourtney
by kevin
May 23, 2008 9:17 AM
what an impact this great human being made on this earth, dr.french was both of my childrens pediatrician. she was such an influence to all she touched, we will all miss you doctor french , i wish i could have thanked you for all you have done!xoxo
by Papa
May 22, 2008 5:10 PM
Our Condolences to John "Greg" Dean; daughter, Sadie; nephew, Jefferson "J.J." Harris; other relatives and friends.
Dr French and her staff are excellent provider of Pediatric care to my son.
She is also a teacher of Pediatric at USF (adjunct)
by Kathleen
May 22, 2008 2:58 PM
How proud Louisiana ex-patriates are of Dr. French. May her family find comfort in the high esteem and love that was felt for Dr. French. To be taken at 52, but to have still made such an impact; how lucky we were to have her for those 52 years.
by Chrissie
May 22, 2008 1:49 PM
I had the pleasure of being a patient of Dr. French and babysitting for Sadie. My heart goes out to this wonderful family.
by Sandy
May 22, 2008 11:25 AM
Dr. French was an inspiration. She was a friend to many and loved by all. She was warm but firm. She was my pediatrician and I am almost 40 now. She had such an impact on me even though I have not seen her in 20 years that I cry as I write this..
by Dante'
May 22, 2008 8:34 AM
To my Cousin that I always looked up to you were an "ANGEL" on Earth !!!!!
by Beth
May 21, 2008 9:15 PM
I had the great pleasure of working with this amazing Doctor. Words can never describe the thing I learned for her. She will be missed by many and was loved by all.
by Suzie
May 21, 2008 9:14 PM
When I was being treated for cancer a number of years ago,my son was a junior in high school.He went in to see her for an illness,but she spent additional time with him to make sure he was okay with what I was going through.My children loved her.
by Debbie
May 21, 2008 9:14 PM
You were my friend and "safety net". You were my 2 son's dr from their first breath to your last and you will never be replaced. I had no idea of your pain. You are an unbelievable dr, mother, wife and person. Thank you for being in our lives!
by a.
May 21, 2008 9:07 PM
dr french was my pediatrition--until i was 21. she was a fantastic doctor & will truly be missed
by Bill
May 21, 2008 5:05 PM
I knew Dr.French for many years, nearly 2 decades. I called on her as a pharma rep, and her concern was always with what was best for her patients. My daughter, and my grandson were patients of hers, we always knew they had the best care. God Bless!
by LW
May 21, 2008 2:48 PM
Dr. French was a shining example of what good 'doctoring' is. She looked after both my children from birth to present--While we slept she was awake looking after and caring for the smallest of mankind. May God bless and keep her--what a loss!!!
by Rp
May 21, 2008 1:33 PM
A life and death so deserving of media coverage! We will all miss her.
by suzie
May 21, 2008 9:00 AM
Dr. French took care of my daughter from birth to age 21. My daughter is now expecting her own child and had hoped to carry on the tradition. Dr. French was a warm, wonderful human being. My heart goes out to her daughter, husband and family.
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