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Epilogue | Bradley Whaley

For three years, a free spirit was silenced


In print: Wednesday, July 9, 2008


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Pregnant with twins, Sue Whaley would hop on the back of her husband's motorcycle, lean her head against his back and fall asleep during the ride.

Her twin sons were conceived a month apart, a medical anomaly. Adam was quiet and studious. Bradley was a free spirit.

Bradley and his father, Tom, worked on the car or motorcycle together. When Bradley was 17, he got a Honda Shadow 750.

Adam enjoyed riding on the back of Bradley's bike because "he was a little wild," he said.

• • •

Bradley would have made a great kindergarten teacher. Or a comedian.

He could make anyone laugh with a mocking voice, crude joke or perfect British accent.

He could not resist playing with children. He accompanied his mother whenever she volunteered at the church nursery. He played with the children for hours.

Old people loved him, too. Couples approached his parents whenever they dined at the restaurant where he worked. The regulars loved how polite and charming Bradley was.

"We'd go, 'Are you sure you're talking about our son?' " Sue said, laughing.

• • •

In high school, Bradley began smoking pot and drinking alcohol. He took some classes at St. Petersburg College, but preferred partying to studying.

His parents implored him to get help, but he refused.

One day in 2005, he got into an argument with the girl he was dating and punched through a window.

Police followed the trail of blood and found him at the bar where she worked. Doctors stitched him up and sent him home.

The next night, he overdosed on painkillers, alcohol and marijuana.

His brain was severely damaged, and he never spoke again. If his mother pulled his chin, he could mouth "Mama." If she leaned close, he could kiss her.

That "broke my heart," Sue, 53, said.

• • •

For nearly three years, his mother and father did nothing but "work, sleep and spend time with Bradley," she said.

There was a chance his condition would improve. But it didn't. Infections kept landing him in a hospital. Finally, his family transferred him to the Hospice of Florida Suncoast, where Terri Schiavo died.

They removed his feeding tube, and his mother lay in bed beside him. He died July 2.

After his accident, Sue stopped attending church. Now, her anger has faded. This weekend, she will be there with Bradley once more.


>>Biography

Bradley Whaley

Born: Dec. 11, 1982

Died: July 2, 2008

Survivors: Parents

Tom and Sue Whaley; brothers Adam and James; sisters-in-law Angelica and Heather; nephew Torin; niece Madelyn; grandmother Grace Longhouser, Asheville, N.C.

Service: 3 p.m. Saturday at Glad Tidings Assembly of God, 4200 17th Ave. N, St. Petersburg.


[Last modified: Jul 15, 2008 08:41 PM]



Comments on this article
by carol Jul 15, 2008 8:41 PM
I feel very sorry for the parents who made this decision. Their hearts were in the right place but they couldn't see the TRUTH.This is murder.We have to wake up to this fact in America.Cmpassion is giving our all to the natural end. Water included.
by Christine Jul 15, 2008 12:32 AM
This is completely and utterly sinful! From what I understand, he was not on a ventilator (correct me if I'm wrong, show documentation) - he WAS ON A FEEDING TUBE !!!!!. That means he didn't have the muscular ability to chew and swallow or the ability to get his brain to tell his muscles to do it. Other people have feeding tubes when they are ill or incapacitated. Anorexics sometimes have to get feeding tubes, as do the elderly. Cognitive impairment also happens to the elderly, Alzheimer's patients, etc - are we going to march them over the cliff next?? He WAS CONSCIOUS. (if you know it's your MOTHER at your side and try to say "Mama", THIS IS HARDLY A VEGETABLE !!!!) This is NOT the same scenario as "putting your dog down". This was a human being. THIS IS NOTHING LESS THAN M-U-R-D-E-R. God have mercy.
by Nicole Jul 13, 2008 7:40 PM
No, Brad was not in his body when they finally let him go. You would know that if you knew him before his accident or if you ever visited him afterward. His family did what he would have wanted! They loved him more than anyone else, He will be missed
by Jen Jul 10, 2008 9:35 PM
RIP Brad...you will forever be in our memories. My thoughts and prayers are with the family.
by Jason Jul 9, 2008 3:38 PM
Was this guy conscious when they dehydrated him to death?
by Martee Jul 9, 2008 3:21 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. And commend you for your love and courage in letting his free spirit soar at last.
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