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Why can't guys just say they're sorry?

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There is a word so simple that it's often one of the first things a child learns to pronounce. Yet it's one of the hardest words in the English dictionary to actually say.

A word that carries so much weight that most of us often contemplate, for hours, whether its use is warranted. Yet speaking it contains enough power to potentially save your job, restore a relationship and, at times, unite countries that were once at war.

Still, it's never easy to say sorry.

As men, this simple five-letter word is one we fail to use often enough because our pride gets in the way. "Sorry" means admitting we were wrong. And men don't like to be wrong.

So it's easier to simply avoid saying it. Like Henny Youngman said, "If you're going to do something tonight that you'll be sorry for tomorrow morning, sleep late."

For those who really have trouble getting it across their lips, I uncovered a Web site devoted to the cause, called

A female friend told me, "We stick around when you guys sometimes do stupid s---, so it's nice when a man can apologize. When we hear a man say he's sorry, we feel relieved."

Maybe some of you guys out there will hate me for looking like I'm going soft. But maybe some of you are at that point in your life, where, like me, you begin to realize you are in fact fallible and need reconciliation.

Is it that simple, Shannon?

She said

Hot damn, Dave! This is a huge breakthrough!

I mean, do you realize you have joined a rare group of men who feel comfortable saying a mea culpa without risking a violent seizure?

I am proud of you! And you know, it might really open up your romantic life, because this becomes a huge plus to women considering you as a possible date/companion/cabana boy.

Men (and frankly, women) who cannot say they're sorry are just stubborn and not worth a reasonable person's time.

It's like when a guy refuses to admit he is lost, and refuses to ask directions.

Will the world end if you admit you made a mistake or had a moment in which you were not the Supreme All-Knowing Being of Earth?! Geez, just get over yourself and pull out a friggin' map.

And those men who don't say sorry are missing out on the best part: The After Sorry moment(s). See, Dave, this is a moment in which she is potentially so enthralled with your sensitivity and self-actualization and humility, she is open to a lot of lovin'! Like make-up sex, but better.

So welcome to the world of the Sorry Men! There's nothing lame or sorry about it. And don't let the caveman friends tell you otherwise.

Why can't guys just say they're sorry? 07/17/08 [Last modified: Thursday, July 17, 2008 1:49pm]
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