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Who made the sacrifices? Mothers

"My mother had a great deal of trouble with me, but I think she enjoyed it."

Leave it to Mark Twain to say something simple, elegant and accurate about a mother's unconditional love and commitment.

Mother's Day is celebrated in the United States on the second Sunday in May, but actually, every day should be Mother's Day. Mother is everything. Life does not exist or propagate without a mother.

Nothing in this universe is greater than a mother's love. A mother provides and protects. A mother will fight any element to death, to protect her child. A mother nurtures not only physical but emotional health. She is the custodian of moral, ethical, cultural and spiritual growth. A mother is the best mentor and most influential person for any individual.

"All I am, or can be, I owe it to my angel mother," said Abraham Lincoln.

The only advice I gave my 16-year-old son when he left home for Harvard University was to "call your mother every single day." He did and still does at age 32.

I often hear people express frustration about how their elderly mother does not understand what they are saying, cannot or does not follow their instructions, does not make any sense when she is talking, does not eat right or take her medications, stays up all night, tends to fall and break things, becomes irritable or sick too often.

Do you think that it ever bothered any mother when her children were doing exactly the same things as they grew up? Shouldn't the children be returning the favor out of responsibility, if not respect and affection?

Don't forget grandmothers, godmothers, adoptive mothers, stepmothers and second mothers. The dictionary definition of mother includes a female who has adopted a child or otherwise established a maternal relationship with another person.

Growing up, the first few years of life, I always thought that I had two mothers. Later I found out one was my birth mother and the other was my grandmother. I used to call both "mother." Like all other happy families in the village, four generations of us lived in the same big, sturdy house. My grandmother was the matriarch. I never heard of the word "divorce" until I went to the city at 16 to attend medical school.

Until I came to the United States, I always took my grandmother's advice for all the critical decisions of my life, because I was smart enough to respect the wisdom of my elders, taking advantage of their life experiences. My grandmother did not have a formal education (there was no school or library in the village), but she had her own human internet of concerned mothers and grandmothers. She made me walk or bike 2 miles each way across the fields every day to attend school in the nearest town.

My grandmother decided that I should come to the United States for advanced education. She thought there was a better life in the distant land. It was a big sacrifice for my mother and grandmother to send me away. I would not be there when they needed me; I would not be there when they died. That kind of sacrifice can come only out of a mother's love.

I hope my mother and grandmother approve of what I did with my life and more important, how much I try to improve the lives of others in the community that I call my home. I sincerely hope that their sacrifice helped some people in some small way.

Dr. Rao Musunuru practices cardiology in Bayonet Point in Pasco County.

Who made the sacrifices? Mothers 05/07/09 [Last modified: Thursday, May 7, 2009 5:16pm]
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