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Column: For Father's Day, some lessons learned from my Dad

As you can see, I not only got my face from my dad but also learned how to use it in photos.


As you can see, I not only got my face from my dad but also learned how to use it in photos.

This is Dad's Weekend. Lydia Harvey's got ideas for pampering Padre, whether he's used to that kind of thing or not, and other pages have gift suggestions, where dads get in free and other events he might enjoy. (Although in all honesty, mine can often be found on a solo fishing trip on Father's Day.)

Holidays like Father's Day, Mother's Day and Grandparents Day always get me thinking about how much parents shape us, wondering about how much of them translates into how much of us.

So in honor of Father's Day, here are some things I learned from my Dad, sometimes affectionately known as Donkey (don't ask).

• How to ruin a perfectly good photo with a goofy face.

• How to fish — and thus how to have patience.

• How to be utterly tone-deaf and still appreciate music (by other people, that is).

• How to appreciate music decades older than myself.

• That it's not always worth taking yourself too seriously.

• How to say a lot in not so many words.

• A love of classic cars, especially Chevys. (Which translates into: how to own more cars than I have garage space for.)

• How to drive a stick.

• How to drive a boat.

• What "diesel's doing today" (Dad's way of saying pay attention to the markets).

• How to attend a proper "therapy session." (See "how to fish.")

• How to swim. (This was partly achieved with some help from my brother and by throwing me out of the aforementioned boat.)

• That going to work is better when referred to as "making the doughnuts." (And that the facts of life necessitate a lot of doughnut-making.)

• To love the Florida Gators.

• How to get "off the payroll." (That means become financially independent enough not to take his money.)

• That to get ahead in life, you need to "educate yourself!"

• How to say things without actually saying them.

• A sense of humor that is oddly focused on bodily functions, made-up words and all-around acting ridiculous.

Whatever you learned from your dad — no matter how ridiculous it may be — think of him or thank him this weekend.

Column: For Father's Day, some lessons learned from my Dad 06/15/16 [Last modified: Wednesday, June 15, 2016 11:18am]
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