Suggestions from bereavement experts and support group leaders for parents facing pregnancy loss:
Be human: Admit it when you feel lonely or in pain. Allow yourself to ask for help, and accept it when family and friends extend a hand. If necessary, contact a local support group for grieving parents.
Communicate: Talk about the baby and your feelings with your partner, family and friends.
Read: Refer to books, articles and poems that provide comfort, understanding and the sense you're not alone.
Write: Record your thoughts in a diary or journal. Write letters, notes or poems to or about the baby.
Physical exam: Because your body also may respond to the grief, schedule a physical examination about four months after experiencing a loss.
Stay stable: Wait at least a year before making any major job or relationship changes. Avoid new or uncertain trips and don't let others make decisions for you.
Faith: Seek spiritual bonds, whether by renewing ties with clergy or setting aside quiet time for reflection.
Nutrition: Eat a balanced diet that includes milk, protein, vegetables, fruit and whole grains. Avoid junk food.
Fluid intake: Drink eight glasses of liquids (juice, water, soda) per day. Avoid caffeine and alcohol.
Exercise: Do something active every day. Even a walk around the block can be useful.
Rest: Avoid increased work activity. Maintain stable rest patterns, even if you're unable to sleep.