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For some, spanking is part of discipline

Many readers have written in response to the column about spanking; some call it child abuse, and others call it _ well, read on, and see what two more readers say:

Dear Lois: My response to the reader who says an old-fashioned spanking is not child abuse is hip-hip hooray. I am a parent who sometimes spanks her children; I am also a teacher, and the results of our permissive society certainly are showing up in the classroom.

Teachers today get very little respect. Children are not good listeners. Many cause continuous distractions. For the past two years, one-third to one-half of my class has turned in assignments late or failed to turn in anything at all.

I am considered a strict parent and teacher by today's standards. But guess what? My children are doing great! They are happy and involved in many activities, both are honor roll students and have friends, and teachers, neighbors and others think highly of them. I do, too. Just sign me _ Not a grandparent yet, but somebody with plenty to say regarding the swatting debate.

Dear Swat: Stay in there. And now, just one more letter on the subject:

Dear Lois: A spanking never hurt or ruined any child. Our problem today is child abuse of the worst kind. By not teaching discipline, we have children desperately seeking authority and a guide to life.

A good release of tension when a child needs discipline is, if necessary, a stinging slap on the thighs or legs. In order to give a child real love, we must take charge. _ Irene Calveri, Mesa, Ariz.

Dear Irene: Your last line is a call to all of us.

The head lettuce

Dear Lois: My grandson Joey was coming out of church, and the deacon walked by. Joey piped up, "Hello, Mr. Lettuce." Later, I asked Joey why he called him Mr. Lettuce, and Joey responded, "Because he always says, "let us bow our heads, let us pray."' _ Catherine Smitti, Newburgh, N.Y.

Dear Catherine: And let us give thanks for adorable grandchildren.

Tapes keep grandparents in touch

Dear Lois: When we moved to Florida, the grandchildren were only 3{ and 2{ and I thought how quickly they would forget us. But I started taping stories and conversations to the grandchildren, and when we went to visit after six months it was as if we had never left. They came running to us, hugging and kissing.

I want to share this one story about Laurain, who was wearing her two-piece bathing suit when she went to play with the children across the way. Soon she came running back to her mommy excited, saying, "Mommy, Janice said she liked my zucchini." _ Mrs. Lee Pecoca, Spring Hill.

Dear Mrs. P: Maybe she thought that Laurain in her bikini looked good enough to eat.

Send your comments and questions to Lois Wyse, the grandmother who's listening: "Wyse Words," Maturity News Service, Suite 968, National Press Building, Washington, D.C. 20045.