Dr. Marie McIntyre
I am an administrative assistant in a small company. One female employee is constantly touching the boss, who happens to be married. They have worked together for six years. I don't think this is at all appropriate. It may be harmless, but it doesn't look that way.
To put it bluntly, I think you should mind your own business and focus on your work. You are an employee, not the manager or the morality monitor. If these people are doing something improper, they will have to suffer the consequences in their personal lives.
Dr. Marie McIntyre is a workplace coach and the author of Secrets to Winning at Office Politics.
Lily Garcia - Overbearing boss
My boss is a monster. She doesn't like to give us assignments until she has gone through them completely and decides they are simple enough. She yells at you if you make a small error. I have spoken directly to her about treating us with more respect and saying thank you occasionally. That lasted for a couple days. What do I do? I believe HR and her manager are aware of her bad boss behaviors as she has been sent to a management course.
Even if you think that the powers that be are aware of your boss' shortcomings, it cannot hurt to add your name to the list of the aggrieved. When someone is entrenched in controlling and belittling behavior patterns, it may take a while before they change. You can meaningfully support your boss' efforts to improve by providing her with honest observations, as you have, and pointing out the positive effect even of the short-lived changes she makes.
Lily Garcia has offered employment law and human resources advice to companies of all sizes for 10 years.
Mary Ellen Slayter
In recent years, there has been an enormous increase in our awareness of privacy violations, but there still seems to be an assumption that it is okay to disclose all kinds of personal information on resumes and cover letters. I don't care to have a total stranger know my entire work and education history, let alone other details about me. I have tried is to limit sending resumes to employers I have some familiarity with. What are some other ways that I can protect my identity when I feel like I am expected to disclose private information?
Evan Hendricks, publisher of the Privacy Times newsletter, says, "Never put your Social Security number on a resume." He suggests getting a post office box if you're concerned about sharing your home address. Limit contact information for an online resume to an e-mail address, perhaps one you have set up exclusively for this purpose.
Mary Ellen Slayter moderates the Washington Post's Career Track Live, an online discussion about issues affecting young workers.