Sunday, October 21, 2018
Parenting & Relationships

Tell Me About It: Girlfriend terrorizes him over household chores

Q: When my girlfriend "Claire" and I moved in together, we split the chores down the middle. It seemed fair to me at the time but Claire always seems to feel shortchanged. She says it isnít fair that she has chores she hates (laundry) while I do stuff (cooking) I enjoy.

Iím the oldest of six siblings, and I donít really hate any basic domestic tasks.

Claire has now tried to ban me from listening to music while I clean, and gets frustrated if I donít clean up to the schedule she has in her head. For example, I vacuum once a week on Friday, unless something gets spilled or someone is coming over. Once I put it off for a couple of days because I was sick as a dog, and now she wonít let it go and harps on about it if I donít start cleaning the minute I get in the door.

At this point I feel like sheís a client more than a girlfriend, and Iíd break up with any client who seemed this impossible to please.

However, before this we got on really well and this is the first time Iíve lived with a significant other ó after growing up in an eight-person house I appreciated my freedom ó so maybe Iím being unreasonable?

Unreasonable?

A: For the sake of argument, letís assume "Claire" is a wonderful person with some legitimate household grievance that she just hasnít been able to articulate, and therefore is putting her anger into whatever option presents itself.

Now, the argument: There comes a point where it doesnít matter how wonderful a person is or how legitimate her grievances are because her response to them becomes too petty and despicable to explain away. "Claire has now tried to ban me from listening to music while I clean"? Because it cuts into what she sees as the required amount of suffering for your home?

Run, run, run ó and not the vacuum.

Life provides enough hard work. You donít need to date it.

Single Woman Seeking Cheerful Bathroom Cleaning, Love: Are any of your siblings single men who also donít mind cleaning and would like to come live at my house?

Carolyn: Loud music encouraged!

This one might be single soon.

Miserable: My son was in a marriage like this. His wifeís role was to make sure he was punished for ... I have no idea, but she made all of our lives miserable. Please, please. This man has to leave the relationship right now, today, this minute, and never, ever look back.

Carolyn: Ever. Thank you.

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